Chump VS. Ego

So I have this friend that we'll call... Jeremy. He and I have been friends since kids and even worked together for a time. He's the type of friend who you keep at a distance and contact every once in a while through e-mail because you can only take him in small dozes. Any who, he's also getting divorced and so we have something else in common.

This past week we've been in contact more and even started texting....GASP!

Yeah, I know, very anticlimatic. HE found out and wasn't amused. As a matter of fact, he even questioned if Jeremy and I had sex. I admit, the opportunity was there and Jeremy was more than willing to help with the dry spell, but he isn't the type of person I am willing to do something so personal like sex for my first time besides my husband. Even I have standards.

Jeremy texted me about two nights ago asking for us to meet on Saturday. My day is free so I said, "Why not?" .... famous last words.

Apparently Jeremy that it would be good to tell me why he is a better person than Him. I am a loyal girl who is sweet and needs someone to take care of me. His comments started to become backhanded. "While he's with her, I'm waiting for you."

I don't need to be reminded that He chose someone else. I don't need to be reminded of that in any comment, which continued from that moment on. Needless to say, I started to become defensive and told him to fuck-off.

Jeremy didn't become fazed, he became more stubborn.

At the end of the day, it is safe to say, that my husband wasn't amused about his antics. He calls Jeremy a "Chump" which is a slang word in LA for a looser, low life, a guy who is a fail in all aspects and isn't considered a man in their eyes. It's a degoratory term in which us girls would equal to us calling a girl a cunt, whore, or even bitch.

Excuse my french.

I ended the so-called frienship because I think my enemies are more friendly than that.

And like my favorite book "Twilight" summarizes towards the end of one chapter:

Of three things I am certain:
1) He thinks Jeremy is a chump who is after only one thing... a notch under his belt... Me.
2) His ego has been injured and he feels the need to protect what he still believes belongs to him even though my ego was forced to allow him to move on.
3) I'll be investing in firefighter calendars because I don't even know if it's worth putting myself out there anymore.

Guys are just as complicated as girls and we are not the only ones who have a hard time letting go of grudges.