I figured since he can't get away from me fast enough, I might as well get started on my own preparations and do some research on my own.
What I found out, was staggering.
It is so easy to get married and yet it's a circus to divorce.
To get married all you have to do is go to a court house...any court house and ask for a marriage liscence. You pay the fee which depends on your state, ($15.00) in Cali....and within an hour you can go to a little Chapel or even have one of their judges perform a small ceremony and you're married.
That's it!
To divorce....well, first you have to figure out which court your case would belong to. You have to meet the requirements of having lived in that city for at least 3 -6 months. The divorce fee in my state is $150.00, or so they say. Then comes the fun part....filling out a bunch of confusing forms, you know...who gets what in regards to finances, property, bills, kids. When you return the forms, it is most likely that you missed something or wrote something wrong. Once that is fixed, comes the waiting. The waiting can take as little as 6 months to a couple of years. Not kidding...apparently there is a waiting list and first come- first serve basis is in place.
If that is not fast enough, you can use lawyers. They fill out the forms and act as mediators when it comes to everything else. They charge a lot....in my case somewhere along $400/hour. If you have money left after that bill, congratulations. The waiting is a little shorter but not by that much.
I know for a fact, that if it was this hard to get married, a lot of men would think twice....or once in my case...if getting married is what they really want. The process alone would either reinforce the love and longing to be together or open your eyes and make you figure out that you really don't want to get married.
Divorce rates would be down.
It would have saved me 10 years of struggling to stay together for the baby...the babies, or families. And who knows, I would probably be married to someone who instead of running fast enough to get away from me, would be running towards me with open arms.
I hope you all think twice before doing something so drastic and life altering.
*ahem* I feel the need to point out that not everybody finds it so easy to get married. But you're right, if it was harder to achieve I feel that people would take it more seriously. they wouldn't take it for granted.
ReplyDeleteBTW...the things you accomplish when you're bored astound me, sweetie ;)